So the other night, my Irish uncle-in-law came to our back door baring gifts of books as a sort of apology. It would seem a little birdie from Canada flew a message over the pond to inform him of my distaste for being called
Kathy.
I know it seems I can border on the obsessive, fanatical, and maniacal when it comes to Kathy. But it simply isn't my name. You might as well call me George or Frank. I have nothing against the name Kathy, it is a lovely, good, and fine name. It simply is not MY NAME.
So, what is my name?
Fair question. Also a deceptively simple question.
Why?
Because the answer is not so simple.
What does this have to do with traveling and living in Ireland?
Not a damn thing.
My name is Katherine. It is also Katy. I've been known to be called Kate (it has been a pet name of my dad's for years). I'll even answer to K, not Kay, but K (called out by my mom from downstairs when she's trying to get my attention).
It amuses me when people ask me for, then press me for, then outright demand to know my preference.
Not Kathy. Anything but nails-on-a-chalkboard-Kathy.
The simple truth of the matter is that I identify with Katherine, Katy and Kate and I like having the choices. Sometimes I feel more like a Katherine, sometimes more of a Katy, and every now and then like a Kate. I like them all. What I don't relish is the thought of ever having to choose just one or worse have people only call me just one. Mark only calls me Katy, though I've heard him refer to me as Katherine. The opposite for Jane, she calls me Katherine but will talk about me as Katy. Mom, Dad and Christy all call me Kate, Katy, Katherine and knuckle-head, interchangeably and in no particular order. Here are some guidelines and scenarios to help illuminate the meanings behind the variations:
Katherine (formal) how I introduce myself 80% of the time, for use in work, school, unfamiliar settings, settings in which I wish to appear smarter than I actually am, and signing things such as credit card receipts
Katy (informal) how I introduce myself 19% of the time, for use in church, bars (go figure that those two are on the same list), also used by people at work or school who either a) think Katherine is too formal and ask me for an alternative or b) have spent anytime with my family and picked it up.
Kate (the final frontier) though I have long answered to Kate I have only in the last year or so actually started referring to myself that way (1% of the time) and even then it has mostly been at Starbucks:
Katherine.
What?
KATHERINE.
WHAT?
way too hard to hear so...
Katy.
What?
KATY
which kept ending with a slightly annoyed Katy holding a cup that said Katie (another not-my-name peeve for another useless blog session)
so then I moved on to
iced venti, non-fat 2 pump white mochas no ice for KATE.
how many pumps was that?
2 pumps.
and I'm sorry you said iced but no ice?
Well, I want it cold but no ice.
Huh?
I know, I have issues.
All 3 of me :)